Portray (verb) means to depict something or someone visually or in writing.
While growing up, you can say I lived a “sheltered” life. Former classmates will tell you, they never or very rarely saw me at popular preteen gathering sites, because my parents wanted to keep me out of trouble. Now like many youngsters, I’m not sure if the trouble found me and attached itself or if I went looking for it, but needless to say – I’ve done a few things that I should not have. But, one thing I have NEVER done is portray myself to be something I am not.
Several days ago, a few colleagues of mine were discussing, on twitter, a young lady who has portrayed herself as being a top-notch public relations practitioner – even “repping” for clients such as Trey Songz, Amber Rose, Kim Kardashian and others. In a world where I can get almost all information at the stroke of a key, I wonder why so many are portraying themselves to be something they are not.
My folks from Memphis, Tenn., would call it “flauging,” pretending to be cooler than you are or something you are not ( the even funnier thing is I actually found the definition of Flauge on the Internet). But seriously, in our personal and professional relationships, it is becoming increasingly common for people to be what you want them to be, one that gains them clout or praise, and not who they are.
I have come across many a men who lie about this or that, in fear of what you might say or your actions. I often wonder, have they ever tried being truthful? To me, the truth will set you free! I know a lot of people say this but, seriously, telling me the truth gets you so much farther with me than a lie. Because of my PR background, I am a researcher. I am one that will not stop looking for the REAL answer until I find it – I never really care if in the end it’s going to damage our relationship professional/personal because to me its more about “breaking” the case. Typically if I ask you something and I ask it more than three or four times, I already know the answer. Sad thing is, usually he still lies or “portrays” and here I am left wondering how to digest this new piece of information.
In my professional life, I have come across a number of people, like my colleagues, who says he or she does this or that, and usually they are flauging 🙂 The one great thing about most PR folks is that we talk to each other. To be communicators, I agree that this doesn’t happen as often as it should, however once you get us talking we won’t stop. So, it took no time for my colleague to find out the young lady was lying. Now being an aspiring PR person who WANTS to rep the above people is one thing, but to misrepresent your experience is something totally different.
We have a number of networking avenues that, are open to aspiring PR, that we use to communicate. One such opportunity is the PoweR Conference. A teleconference held monthly by Candice Nicole PR. This was the first month and I can tell you it is a valuable tool! There is nothing wrong with asking for help or being the lowest rung of the ladder. We have all been there – but portraying something or someone you are not, is a quick way to tarnish your reputation. And, please, please do not do this portraying on social networking sites such as FaceBook and Twitter. This is harmful to you and the situation. Only makes for a difficult recovery from what has occurred.
So, here are a few ways to spot someone who is portraying or “lying:”
- A guilty person gets defensive.
- Liars sometimes avoid “lying” by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.
- The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you… they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.
- Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.
And of course there are MANY more..do your research. These types of people don’t just happen in male/female relationships or Public Relations – they are everywhere. Make sure you know how to spot them.
Today’s Outfit (Throwback):
Black Cami – Forever 21
Royal Blue High-waisted Skirt – H&M
Black Thong Sandals – Express